The Navel Chakra is the place of assertion. When your Sacral Chakra is open and expanding, you are confident and exuberant. You have connected with your desires and emotions, now the Navel gives you the go ahead needed to hit the launch button.
In order to expand, we have to try things outside of our comfort zone. If we don't, we remain stagnant and stop growing. By the time we reach adulthood our Navel energy has been attacked so many times, that our Being is literally battered and broken.
The world conditions us to suppress our desire and accept our limitations. We push forward in our youth and then life pushes us down, over and over again. Fear creeps in and the Navel center begins to shrink. It takes an extremely resilient person to take a hit and get back up. The world becomes heavy, and like Atlas, we become imprisoned by it. Suddenly, life doesn't feel so friendly, and we get the sinking feeling that this is a place to survive rather than thrive.
The way we heal our fears, and begin to see possibilities, is by learning to trust ourselves again. Going from a place of complete self-doubt straight to King of the World would be delusional and out of touch with reality. Such ideas might increase the energy of the Navel only to reduce that of the Roots you worked so hard on before.
If you plant a seed in the ground with too much fertilizer, it will shoot straight toward the sun like an arrow, but will not be capable of bearing fruit. All the energy is used to climb, none of it is preserved to offer the world in exchange for it's own development. Rather than produce things of value it simply races toward the finish line toward death. The same concept holds true in humanity.
In our Inner Reality, a deficient Navel Chakra manifests as self-doubt. If I tell myself, “You will wake up every morning at six and do Yoga” and then neglect to do so, the next time my promise won't feel believable. After several failed attempts I will eventually give up all together, believing that I am incapable of waking up early and doing Yoga. If a few years later when a friend begs me to take Yoga with her, I'll want to say no. I'll be afraid. But if I say yes and succeed, I will no longer hold that same fear. I will have developed the confidence and assurance necessary to fulfill the desires of myself and my friend.
The same thing happens in our Outer Reality when we fail to meet obligations we make to others. If my client pays me to write 1,000 words of copy for their blog by Friday and I turn it in the following Monday, that client will lose confidence in my ability to follow through with a deadline. If they give me another chance and I blow it by rushing to get the content in on time at the expense of quality, they will lose confidence in my ability as a writer. If word gets around that I am unreliable, not only do I lose one client, I might lose all of them.
The roles we play in our lives exist through interaction with others. I cannot be a mom without my son. I cannot be a wife without my husband and I cannot be a freelance writer without my clients. A huge part of my identity would disappear, and if I spent years of time and thousands of dollars on establishing myself in the role of freelance writer, the blow to my self esteem would be devastating.
So, healing the Navel energy center consists of two important steps.
#1 - Make goals and satisfy them.
Start small, perhaps with habits you have already established, and add a simple objective that stretches you a little more. For example if you already have a habit of going to the gym, add in a few extra reps. Give it a year of stretching a little ways each time, and you will see you've leaped forward and accomplished more than you ever thought possible. Each time you achieve a new goal you will gain confidence and begin telling yourself a story of success rather than fear and doubt.
#2 - Learn to say no.
One of the many ways we shrink our Navel energy is by overextending ourselves to meet other peoples expectations. We commit to obligations we despise or fail to accomplish. Our need for acceptance and appreciation can cause us to say yes to everyone that asks for our help. We don't want to let anyone down, we try so hard to gain the respect and admiration of our friends, family and co-workers that we feel the word “no” is an inappropriate response. Actually, saying yes to something you don't want to do can be damaging not only to you, but to them as well. If someone is relying on your enthusiasm and/or your ability to finish a project and you can't, there may be dire consequences for the person who took a risk on you. When you fail to meet other peoples expectations after you've committed, your own self esteem begins to nose dive. It's important to know what is authentic for yourself. Do the work it takes to nurture your Root Chakra energy, and you will have a clear understanding of your inner and outer desires. If someone asks you to do something, and it doesn't line up with your truth or your purpose, Just Say No!!! Think of all the energy you would save if you stopped trying to give it out to the projects, jobs and problems imposed on you by others that didn't align with your objectives. It is not selfish to politely refuse an offer or a request. In the end you are doing them and yourself a great service. Don't be rude or hurtful. It may benefit you to help them with something else later or you might find yourself in need of their skills in the future.
The tug and pull necessary to achieve balance in spending your energy is a difficult one. Every day you are faced with decisions, some small, some life altering. It's not a good idea to wait and learn how to swim when the wave pulls you out into the ocean. Knowing who you are, what your desires and priorities are and remaining both generous and frugal about how you spend your time and resources are all necessary to keep a level head when being presented with confusing or stressful decisions. Having a strong Navel Chakra will give you a good grounding. Establishing a strong sense of self reduces unnecessary anxiety and helps keep your head above water when the floods come.